Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Not what we had hoped

The birth mom has decided to parent.


Ali said...

Oh Jenni. I cannot even begin to fathom what you guys are going through today. I've been talking to a friend about your journey yesterday and today and we had both been thinking and praying about meetings and decisions this week.

I could enter any number of cliches here, but they won't help to heal. I know there is a reason, and perhaps you and Mark have shown the birth mother a better path and improved her life and Sam's.

I know there is a reason, but it doesn't help the pain or the tears. Stay strong in your faith and your Sam will come.

Love to you all!

uncpdeb said...

oh jenni. i'm so sorry hun. i can't imagine what yall must be feeling right now. we will definitely be praying for you all during this difficult time. i know God has a special plan for your family, but that doesn't take away the pain you must be feeling right now. i pray He surrounds you both with His special grace, peace and comfort. know that we love you dearly!

i pray your Sam isn't too far from being home with yall as their new family!

Erik-Karen-Kyra said...

Jenni and Mark,
We love you guys and will be praying for God's continued grace and direction in your lives and you add to your family! Enjoy your week with, laugh, and live!

Debbie Susee said...

Hey Jen!
Kelly just told me about your blog so I've been reading and catching up. I had heard that you were looking into adoption but hadn't heard any of the details. After reading your blog, I feel somewhat caught up.
Ok, I wanted to respond to this sad news. I'm sure you know this but I'll just remind you. God has a perfect plan for your life and when He puts the adoption plan for you into place, you will be amzed! You will wonder why you ever fretted and worried. I've been in both places and can tell you from experince that He will create a miracle that is just right for you
Know that you can never totally "protect" your heart from caring for birthmothers or babies and embrace that. Think about what effect you might have on each life you touch through this process. It is an amazing thing.
I'm not saying that you won't or shouldn't have down times and frustration but keep the end in sight and remember His faithfulness in your life thus far.
We're raising the proof right now--he's 13! And we're going to visit his birthmother and siblings in a few weeks. God will work in you and through you in ways you can't imagine. When I first heard of open adoption, it was the scariest thing possible. Now I'm living it and loving it!
Love you Jen and can't wait to hear about your process. I added your blog to my favorites and will keep tabs on you. Please feel free to email me with questions or when you need encouragment ( I would love to be there for you as others were for me.
Debbie Susee