Monday, April 4, 2011

The Difference

Yesterday LT Wonderful and I had the opportunity to hang out alone.  My beloved mom came down and had the boys for two days.  It was great have some time for the two of us to reconnect.

We headed out to Starbucks for our quality time, chatting and laughing about our goofy boys.  LT Wonderful told me an awesome story about playing with Tate and saying to him, "Tate, do you know that I love you?" Tate responded, "Yes, Dad." Without really thinking about it.  LT Wonderful then said, "Do you know that I'll always love you?"  Tate responded with an eye roll, "Yes Daddy.  I KNOW!"

We smiled at the thought.  Our boys are secure in our love for them.  They know that our love is not conditional.  We're somehow able to communicate our love for them in a way they understand.

Then we started talking about Nicaragua. Every chance we get we pour into our kids there.  Not just the girls, but all of them.  And they also know that we love them...or, are starting to know that that means.  We come down every chance we get.  We spend time with them as much as possible.  But when we have a conversation with the kids there, the out come is always very, very different.  I remember one conversation in particular.  It was with a 15 year old boy who wanted to know why we care about his grades, his family, his life.  I looked him in the eye and said, "It's because we love you.  We care about you.  We want what is best for you and are willing to go to great lengths to make sure that you're getting what you need.  We know that you've had a rough life.  But we're here for you.  We love you and we will always be on your side."

The tears were pouring out of his eyes, running down his cheeks and he was unashamed of them.  He wrapped his arms around LT Wonderful and hugged him for a long moment.  It was beautiful.

Although he's not completely secure in our love yet, he's getting there.  Is there a better feeling than knowing that someone loves you for you?  It doesn't matter what happens, you are loved.  Our goal is to share that love with all of the kids in our lives.  To be able to pour into them so that they can enjoy that security of being loved and in turn, learn how to love unconditionally themselves.

I think that it's easy to love your children, but sometimes it's not easy to communicate love to your children.  I've met this boy's family.  I know they love him, but they have a hard time communicating it.  So we're making a commitment not just to love, but to communicate love and demonstrate our love.

Our hope is that all of our kids will be secure in love, learn how to love and learn how to show love.  And that someday we'll have hundreds of grandbabies running around, completely secure in their parent's love for them.  Isn't that a beautiful thought?